Dear reader my dad has taught me from a young age never chase a person, they either want to stay with you or they don’t.

Always leave the door open, a person who really wants to be with you won’t even notice.

If you try to force someone to stay with you it will eventually create resentment and after awhile they will leave anyway.
I know it seems weird for a dad to tell his daughter these things, however my dad wanted me to learn the lessons he did from his divorce. I heard this from when I was about 12 on.

I am so beyond thankful everyday now that I did. It has helped me so much in my life. I told my ex the same before he left, at first He looked at me like I was nuts but a few years ago after the drama with his baby momma he called me and told me: “You were right, I am so glad I don’t resent you. ”

I see both of my best friends having to move almost every obstacle out of the way of their significant others and bending over backwards to please them(Never ever talking to me when their guys are home etc ) and I thank the Gods for my dad’s lessons.

I shouldn’t have to remove every possible thing and person who may cause issues away from the man I am with as if baby-proffing a house for a child just so a man will stay with me. He should be able to stand on his own two feet so to speak.

He should want to be with me because he wants to be not because I have taken away all other options or choices.
To me personally it shows you have ZERO trust in your partner or relationship if you don’t think he can make the choice to stay with you.

I keep having my friends tell me that I will never have a stable relationship because I don’t “fight for my relationship(s)”.

I think I do “fight” for them, I will stick it out during arguments and bad moods etc I just don’t want to be a man’s only choice.