Dear reader I am not judging my friend I just wish she would understand that you don’t just fall in love, get married and it’s all good forever.

In my personal experience I have seen that marriage takes work. Everyday people change little by little and you have to work to keep the marriage happy and alive.

I know that I am getting divorced soon, however that doesn’t mean that the lessons I learned in the 4 and half years I was married don’t matter.

I am thankful because I know I can apply these lessons to my next marriage someday.

I told her the best advice I can give her is to tell him the truth about whatever she lied to him about(she told me she said the things so he would like her) before he finds out and questions other things but she doesn’t want to do it because she is afraid to loose him.

I asked her what they have in common and she can’t really tell me much, I honestly don’t understand this at all.