Note to reader: The following post is ONLY about me venting about my own personal thoughts/feelings about this situation, nothing more nothing less. The back story to this post can be found in the “I just lost my friend Janet because of this blog” in the “Venting” tab of my blog if you’re curious about it.
Dear reader Janet unblocked me from FB to message me telling me that I shouldn’t have vented about her life and that I owe her context to in her words “make things make more sense”.
I messaged her back and said:
1. In almost every single venting post I write I put a disclaimer at the very beginning of the it saying that it is only about my own personal thoughts/feelings about the situation nothing more nothing less.
I don’t personally feel that I owe her or anyone else any other context to the situation other than what I personally understand. If I was talking about it saying “Hey dear reader this is what Janet or whoever did today and I was writing it as a play-by-play type of thing and not taking about my own personal feelings then I think context would be necessary.
2. She also asked me what right did I have to talk about her situation:
I told her that I was ONLY venting/talking about the situation in regards to how it was making ME feel at the time. I never tried to talk for her.
She also said that she had been reading my blog without telling me to see if I would stop(which I was never asked to do and no I will not stop writing about whatever happens to or effects me) or if I would lie to her and say that I had never used her first name which she admitted I was honest about.
I told her that I wouldn’t be mad if she or someone else vented about me on a blog or website as long as only my first name was used and no pictures of me were posted which is exactly what I did in this case.
Also to me personally dear reader I feel like part of the big problem she had with what I wrote was that I didn’t make it sound pretty which to me personally it wasn’t and to me if someone wrote their own personal feelings about how something that I did or said to them affects/affected them it’s not their jobs to make it sound pretty.
She ended the message by saying that she will always love me however our friendship is over. I messed her back saying that I love her too and blocked her off of FB just to be sure to avoid any further drama.
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It sounds like she just wanted to say goodbye plus when you unblock someone from FB it does take 48 hours to be able to black said person again. But good for you for doing her what she had to wait 48 hours to redo.
She had said goodbye yesterday when she called me on the phone to yell at me. She has known about the blog and how I run it from the start I personally think she’s mad now because I have been telling her lately that I need space to deal with my own issues.
Well, how long have you two been friends? Maybe she isn’t as mad as you think she is. and from #2 it just sounds that she was more hurt because she might not have known what were you saying regardless of if she knew about your blog. Some people are more private than others.
Again I was only giving my own personal thoughts/feelings about how whatever she were talking to me about was affecting me. Everyone has their own personal opinions about what people do which is what I was talking about. I never talked for her it was always my own personal opinion. Again it writing here about it stopped me from yelling at her or anyone else I write about at the time. After I write about a situation usually my feelings about it are done. Again if anyone wants to vent about me using my first name and no pictures I wouldn’t care. I highly doubt anyone who reads this has any idea who specifically I am talking about unless they know me personally. I doubt anyone could find Janet and tell her yup I know that it’s you. If anyone would search their names in regards to this I don’t think anything would come up because no last names are used or pictures.
Well do you think that maybe down the road the tow of you may have a chance of fixing your friendship? If not all you can do know is know that both of you wrote to each other today to say goodbye and move on. From what i have seen on your blog it just sounds like a big understanding. I’m sorry that is happened with you and your friend but you can always make new friends.
I will never stop writing about whatever happens to or effects me and I am not sure if she understood that blogging here keeps me sane and from yelling at people. My other friend Adriana knows that I use her first name here to vent about her and why and she’s ok with it as for anyone else who is close to me (like a bf) they will have to be ok with this blog and my venting about things.
As for my family my dad knows and doesn’t care he is proud that people read it. My brother and sister will not understand it period so they don’t know.
I am just trying to keep myself going. As for being friends with Janet it would be up to her (I am not going to call her A because I deleted her number after she yelled at me on the phone and B because currently I have to take care of myself right now) as for other friends I will probably meet some more in time but I don’t think I will ever be as close to them as I was to her and to my other best friend Adriana. I don’t let people into my heart easily.
Also everything that I have said here about her I have said to her face (not as bluntly maybe) I just don’t personally understand why she told me that she was ok with it the other day on the phone and that she just wouldn’t read it she also joked about not caring if I use her first name or not on her because she doesn’t use her real first name on FB.
Maybe she was taking it in. It sounds like she is very sensitive and couldn’t handle it. Some people feel more than others and we can not blame them for it. Maybe she didn’t like or was hurt by your bluntness on your blog. But like I said before just be glad both of you said goodbye. And be proud you have your safe place but never forget they good times you had because one never knows when the end is near. If this just was an understanding I would hate for one of you to die with the other regretting not saying how they felt. I have lost a few people in my life and I wish I had a second chance to tell them I loved them.
If she was taking it in then she should have waited until she knew how she felt about it the day she called me on the phone and left me 3 voice mails.
As for feeling more than most she said yesterday or the other day we talked about it that she wouldn’t read my blog since it bothered her(I never asked her to read it and again I told her about it pretty much from the time I started writing it two years ago).
I am happy for the times we shared although to be completely honest the happiest memories were when she lived closer to me (I am disabled and she lives too far away to visit me) I have been sad for awhile that I haven’t been able to help her like I did back before she moved I think that if I could’ve have physically helped her more maybe we would still be friends.
As for being blunt for the most part that is just me being honest with people.
I am sorry that you have lost people I am sure that they knew on some level that you loved them.
Yea, I lost a few people like I said. Sometimes I pray to the heavens that the know that I loved them and still do. It sounds like you are are still upset or angry by her reaction. But remember she is still a human being and is entitled to her own feelings. Yes, this may be YOUR blog and have done what you could to make it known that it was only YOUR feelings but to her it could have been much more than she said. Just do yourself a favor never let those memories go because honestly that is all you have now. If she calls you down the line or not. Now being honest and being blunt can be seen as too different thing depending on who you talk to. But as long as you don’t hurt anybody being blunt is not a problem. My Nana always said that.
I feel like it was discussed before she yelled at me on the phone and now she’s done with me which is her right.
I will move on in time. I don’t regret anything because I was honest about everything.
If she calls me I would talk to her however I would not be her friend anymore because she said on the phone call that she was done with me for good and I take what people say seriously.
Thanks for the comments ☺
No problem. I am happy to chat with a smart woman like yourself. Be strong regardless of what happens with your friend. You sound like a tough cookie so you probably got this. 😉 I don’t think you will ever hear from your friend again. From what I gather she told you goodbye. Like you posted she did tell you she loved you…and that was after the phone call I am guessing which means she sat down and thought about it. But Rose I must say don’t let this get you down both of you will hurt for awhile. Just go day by day friend. It was nice talking with you.
I will keep going because giving up isn’t an option. It’s just not easy to loose one of two people I was closest to(not counting family). Take care of yourself too ☺